Philomena C. Tomko


Phyllis (Philomena) C. Tomko, 86, of Lancaster, PA, passed away on July 13, 2018, from complications of Leukemia.  Phyllis, and her husband John, were active residents of the Homestead Community in Lancaster.

She was born on October 12, 1931 in Derby, CT, and she and John spent most of their lives in Connecticut and Massachusetts, before relocating to Lancaster.

Phyllis and John were married for 64 years and had two children, John, Los Angeles, CA, and Carole, Seattle WA.

Phyllis enjoyed cooking, gardening, and sewing.  She was an avid reader and in her last year she read an average of four books a week.   She enjoyed spending time with her grandchildren in Maryland, attending their school and sport events.    Each year since they were married, she and John vacationed during the summer in Cape Cod, MA, and more recently enjoyed spending winters in Florida.

She is survived by her son, John, daughter Carole, grandchildren, Nicholas and Grace Recka, daughter-in-law Amanda Nelligan, son-in-law Rex Recka, sisters-in-law Louise Nowotny and Karen McGovern, brothers-in-law David McGovern and Arch Rollinson, and nieces, nephews and extended family in Shelton, CT.

Memorial services will be held privately in Connecticut.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Hospice and Community Care, 685 Good Drive, P.O. Box 4125, Lancaster, PA 17604


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  • Dear Carol, John and your families,
    I was so saddened to hear of your mother’s passing. What a very special and courageous lady she was! The time mother and I spent with your parents at Gelhard House are precious memories for me. This is a big loss, following your father’s passing as well. I pray for your entire family as you travel this journey, knowing that they are together, well and happy again. Love to you. You will always be very dear to my heart. Mother loved you all so much. May the Lord bless you richly and comfort you. Love,
    Barb Charles

  • My deepest sympathy goes out to all of you.
    I used to work with Phyllis and even after all these years I often thought of her. She was a great worker and taught me a lot. It was a pleasure working with her.
    Memories Last a Lifetime!

  • Carol & John, I was saddened to read of your mother’s passing. My wife Michelle & I lived 2 doors away (same unit) from John & Phyllis, in the Summit Hills Development. I have fond memories of your parents and shared many conversations with them over several years.
    Phyllis gave me a homemade pizza recipe years ago, which is still use. She was very kind and motherly like that that. John & Phyllis were probably the best neighbors I’ve ever had. I’m thinking and praying for you and your families at this time. Steve & Michelle Zerbe

  • Phyllis and John were the first people I met at Homestead. They soon became friends.
    My condolences go out to their family and for our loss at Homestead Village.

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